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Stop
Bullying
Now
“No, you don't know what it's like
When nothing feels all right
You don't know what it's like
To be like me To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you're down
To feel like you've been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one's there to save you
No, you don't know what it's like
Welcome to my life”
~ Simple Plan
How Do You Define “Bully”
Did You Know?
The word “Bully” meant the total opposite of
what it means now.
Five hundred years ago, “Bully” meant
friend, family member or sweetheart.
Bullying is…
• Power over
• Meant to hurt
• May happen over and over
Two Types of Bullying
• Direct
• Indirect
Direct Bullying
Physical – hitting, kicking, pushing,
stealing, hiding or ruining someone’s
things, making someone do something
they don’t want to do.
Verbal – name calling, teasing, insulting,
threats, intimidation.
Indirect Bullying
Relationship/Social Bullying – gossiping,
spreading rumors and lies about someone,
making someone feel left out or rejected.
Cyber Bullying - harassment using
technology (email, Instant Messaging,
websites, text messaging, Facebook,
Twitter, etc.)
Cyber Bullying
Percentage of all youth reporting bullying
online (message boards, Instant Messaging,
e-mail, cell phone, chat rooms, blogs, profile
sites):
Insults - 66%
Threats - 27%
Sharing embarrassing pictures - 18%
Privacy violation - 25%
Password theft – 33%
Journal of School Health, 2008
Bullying in school
is against the law
Illinois is 1 of 47 states that have
anti-bullying laws for schools
Workplace Bullying
Ongoing mistreatment that may include
- Verbal and non-verbal abuse
- Threats, humiliation, and intimidation
- Interfering with work
Healthy Workplace Bill
Workplace Bullying is against the law in
Illinois
The Healthy Workplace Bill guides
employers and employees
Illinois was the 15th state to
introduce the
Healthy Workplace Bill
www.healthyworkplacebill.org/bill.php
People Who Bully - 1
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Want power
Have a positive attitude toward violence
Have quick tempers
Have difficulty following rules
Like hurting people and believe they are
rewarded (attention, material goods) from
their bullying
National Crime Prevention Council
People Who Bully - 2
• Lack concern for others
• Are concerned with what they want rather
than what others may want
• Find it difficult to see things from someone
else’s point of view
• Are willing to use others to get what they
want
National Crime Prevention Council
Why People with Disabilities
may be the Target of Bullying
People with disabilities who are bullied often
stand out as being different
abillitypath.org
Signs of Possible Bullying
• Physical Changes
• Emotional Changes
• Behavioral/Social Changes
National Crime Prevention Council
Physical Changes
Cuts, bruises, scratches, broken bones
Headaches, stomachaches
Damaged possessions
“Missing” possessions that need to be
replaced
• Missing money
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National Crime Prevention Council
Emotional Changes
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Withdrawal and/or shyness
Anxiety
Depression
Aggression
National Crime Prevention Council
Behavioral/Social Changes
• Changes in eating or sleeping habits
• No longer wanting to participate in
activities once enjoyed
• Beginning to bully siblings and/or friends
or mistreating family pets
• Hurting self, attempting or threatening
suicide
• Suddenly changing friends
National Crime Prevention Council
Other Changes
• Not wanting to go to school or work
• Changing method of going to school or
work (changing walking route, wanting to
be driven instead of riding the bus)
• Drop in grades or change
in work habits
National Crime Prevention Council
When you notice changes…
• Ask to meet with the person in safe place
of the person’s choice
• Gently point out the changes you’ve
noticed
• Ask the person to share what has
happened or is happening
• Listen and be fully present with the person
• Ask yourself, “Is this a behavior or is it a
response to trauma?”
How Does Bullying Make
People Feel?
Reasons People Don’t Stand Up
for the Victim
• The bully is someone others look up to and
want to hang out with.
• They agree with the bully because it makes
them feel strong.
• They’re entertained by the bullying.
• They don’t think speaking up will help.
• They’re afraid that if they say something,
the bully will hurt them.
• They are afraid of being called a “tattletale”.
Tattling versus Telling
Tattling – Is trying to get someone in
trouble.
Telling – When you tell about bullying, you
are helping someone else.
Silence = Supporting the
person who is
bullying
We need YOU to help stop
bullying.
It’s Not OK! A video highlighting
The Arc Greater Twin Cities’
abuse prevention initiative.
http://www.youtube.com/watch
?feature=player_embedded&v=T
1YzH9nPfLE
Put a Stop to Bullying
• Speak up
• Encourage others to speak up
“Cut that out!”
“Stop that!”
“That’s not funny!”
“You’re hurting him/her”
• Make friends with someone who gets picked
on
• Tell a trusted person
Are You Bullying Others?
• Does it make you feel better to hurt other
people or take their things?
• Do you sometimes use your size and
strength to get your way?
• Are you bullying someone because
you have been bullied?
Stop Bullying Others!
• Apologize to people that you have hurt,
and follow it up by being respectful.
• If you are having a hard time feeling good
about yourself, explore ways to boost your
self-esteem.
• If you feel like you’re having trouble
controlling your feelings, especially anger,
talk to someone about getting help.
You Are NOT Your Label
Labels are for cans, not for people.
Strategies for
Agencies/Organizations
• Involve self-advocates, family members, staff,
and your local sexual assault center
• Implement a policy against bullying
• Implement a comprehensive bullying
prevention program
• Provide training for everyone
• Investigate bullying incidents and work with
people involved to prevent future incidents
National Crime Prevention Council
7 Things To Do When Someone
Tells You of Bullying
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Keep things private
Recognize how hurtful bullying is
Share if you have been bullied
Help the person figure out what he/she can
do about the bullying
5. Let the person know that he/she can come
to you in the future
6. Help the person advocate
Adapted from
7. Check in
“the are word”, Dave Hingsburger
What Not To Do When
Someone Tells You of Bullying
Don’t say, “Just ignore it”.
Undoing the Damage
Help the person feel good about himself/herself
Help the person to feel safe within his/her world
Help the person to find his/her gifts and talents
Help the person gain control over moods and
feelings
• Support the person in accomplishing goals
• Start or join a support group
• Get help from a professional
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Mark Dombeck, Ph.D., 2007
The Power of Power
There are three kinds of power in the world:
– POWER OVER
“I’m in charge - you’re not.”
– POWER WITH
“Let’s work together as equals.”
– POWER WITHIN
“I am a strong person inside!”
We’re a Lot Stronger When We
Work and Learn Together!
October is Bullying
Awareness Month
Special Thanks To… - 1
• CTF Tigers
• Sertoma United
• Walk a Mile in Their Shoes: Bullying and the Child
with Special Needs, A Report and Guide from
AbilityPath.org
• PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center
• Dave Hingsberger
Special Thanks To… - 2
• Det. Andrew Palese, Delaware State Police, School
Resource Officer
• DeKalb County School System
• National Crime Prevention Council
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To learn more about The Alliance, please visit
www.selfadvocacyalliance.org.