Transcript Document

The
habits
of highly effective people
Habits have a tremendous gravity pull
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Lift off takes a lot of effort,
but once we break out of the gravity pull,
our freedom takes on a whole new dimension
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Ready for take off ?
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Habit 1:
Be proactive
“You are respons-able: able to choose your respons!”
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Circle of Concern
We have a wide range of
concerns, but not all of them
fall into our circle of influence
Circle of influence
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“Proactive people focus their efforts in their circle of
influence, causing the circle of influence to increase
Reactive people focus their effort in the circle of concern.
The negative energy generated by that focus causes the
circle of influence to shrink”
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“Anytime we think the problem is out there,
that thought is the problem”
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You can choose your language
Reactive:
Proactive:
I must
I prefer
If only
I will
They made me
I choose
If I had
I can be
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Habit 2:
Begin with the end in mind
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The key to the ability to change
is a changeless sense of who you are,
what you are about and what you value
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Is the script you are living in harmony with your values?
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Habit 3:
Put first things first
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The key to time
management is not to
prioritize what’s on
your schedule but to
schedule your
priorities
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It’s almost impossible to say NO to the popularity
of urgent, non important matters, if you don’t have
a bigger YES burning inside
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“Things which matter most should never be at
the mercy of things which matter least”
Goethe
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Habit 4: Think Win/win
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“You can only achieve win/win solutions
with win/win processes”
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It’s not your way or my way, it’s a better way
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Habit 5:
Seek first to understand,
then to be understood
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“We have such a tendency to fix things up with
good advice, but often we fail to take the time to
diagnose, to really deeply understand another
human being first”
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Reading your own autobiography
into other people’s lives
is nót (even close to) listening
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Habit 6:
Synergize
“The whole is greater
than the sum of its parts”
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“When we are left to our own experiences,
we constantly suffer from a shortage of data”
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“The person who is truly effective has the humility to recognize his own
perceptual limitations and to appreciate the rich resources available
through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human beings”
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In order to have influence,
you have to open yourself up
to bé influenced
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Habit 7:
Sharpen the Saw
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Read, write, relax, exercise, play, love, get involved, meditate …
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“Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from
little things … I am tempted to think … there are no little things”
Bruce Barton
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The end
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Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits
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Are you able to change important areas of your life?
Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope?
Do you prioritize your time and energy well?
How often do you feel bullied by others?
Do you understand others ... and vice versa?
What are your unique talents? Are they important?
Does your life often feel “out of balance”?
 What does “success” mean to you?
(family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith)
 What is required to obtain that success?
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Are you willing to change course?
Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy
weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the
bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the
bridge keeping an eye on all activities.
Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the
starboard bow.”
“Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out.
Lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course
with that ship.
The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course,
advise you to change course 20 degrees.”
Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.”
The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.”
“I’m a navy officer second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.”
By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course
20 degrees.”
Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse.”
We changed course.
Will you crash against the principles ... or change course?
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The 7 Habits ... an overview.
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Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
Synergize
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6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
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Independence
1st
3
things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
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Be Proactive
End in mind
Dependence
habit = knowledge
+ skill
+ desire
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1. Be Proactive:
Principles
Embodied
in Responsibility/Initiative
the 7 Habits
2. Begin with the End in Mind:
3. Put First Things First:
4. Think Win-Win:
5. Seek First to
Understand, Then
to be Understood:
6. Synergize:
7. Sharpen the Saw:
Vision/Values
Integrity/Execution
Mutual Respect/Benefit
Mutual Understanding
Creative Cooperation
Renewal
Behavior is governed by values.
Consequences are governed by principles.
Therefore, value principles.
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The 7 Habits
of Highly Effective
People
 Sharpen the Saw
Interdependence
 Seek First to
Understand,
Then be Understood
Public
Victory
 Synergize
 Think Win-Win
Independence
 Put First Things First
 Be Proactive
Private
Victory
 Begin with the
Dependence End in Mind
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Stimulus and Response
Proactive
Stimulus
Response
Freedom
to Choose
Self-Awareness
Imagination
Conscience
Independent Will
(Heart)
(Mind)
(Spirit)
(Body)
Reactive
Stimulus
Response
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Stimulus and Response
Freedom to Choose
Stimulus
Response
Personal Level
(Muscle Development)
Stimulus
Response
Relationship Level
(Skill Development)
Stimulus
Response
Organizational Level
(Team / System Development)
Stimulus
Human Need Level
Response
(Competitive Play)
(Home Place/Work Place/Marketplace/Community/etc.)
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Circle of
Influence
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Reactive
Focus
Circle of
Influence
Wait Until Told
(Co-dependent)
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Proactive
Focus
Circle of
Influence
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Wait Until
Told
Do it
Do it and report periodically
Do it and report immediately
“I intend to”
Ask
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Quadrant II
Time
™
Management
Not Urgent
Important
Urgent
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Crises
Pressing problems
Deadline-driven projects,
meetings, preparations
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Planning, Prevention
PC activities
Recognizing new
opportunities
Relationship Building
Renewal, Recreation
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Not Important
Habits 1-7
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Needless interruptions
Unnecessary reports
Unimportant meetings,
phone calls, mail
Other people’s minor
issues
III
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Trivia, busywork
Some phone calls
Time wasters
“Escape” activities
Irrelevant mail
Excessive TV
IV
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The Level 5 Hierarchy
LEVEL 5
Level 5 Executive
Jim Collins
Good to Great
Builds enduring greatness through a
paradoxical combination of
personal humility plus professional will.
Effective Leader
commitment to and vigorous pursuit of
LEVEL 4Catalyzes
a clear and compelling vision; stimulates the
group to high performance standards.
Competent Manager
LEVEL 3 Organizes people and resources toward effective
and efficient pursuit of predetermined objectives.
Contributing Team Member
LEVEL 2Contributes to the achievement of group objectives;
works effectively with others in a group setting.
LEVEL 1
Highly Capable Individual
Makes productive contributions through talent,
knowledge,skills, and good work habits.
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Four Areas of
Choice
Mind
THE FIRE WITHIN
Spirit
Heart
Body
Make and Keep Promises
Respect, Balance, Integrate, Develop
Educate and Obey your Conscience
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Four Needs of
People
Mind/
To Learn
THE FIRE WITHIN
Spirit
To Leave a Legacy
Heart/
Body
To Love
To Live
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Four Needs of
Organizations
Mind/
To Learn
Mental Use of Talents
THE FIRE WITHIN
Spirit
To Leave a Legacy
Spiritual Integrity
Heart
Body
To Love
To Live
Emotional Respect
Economic Security
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Four Needs of People
Four Needs of
Organizations
Mind/
To Learn
Spirit
To Leave a Legacy
Heart
Body
To LoveCo-missioningTo Live
Blending Voices
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Four Intelligences
of People
Mental Intelligence
(IQ)
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THE FIRE WITHIN
Spiritual Intelligence
(SQ)
Emotional
Physical
Intelligence
Intelligence
Make and Keep Promises
(EQ)
(PQ)
Educate and Obey your Conscience
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Leading a Balanced,
Integrated, Powerful Life
Mind/
Vision
N
THE FIRE WITHIN
Spirit
Conscience
Make and Keep Promises
Vision,
HeartDiscipline, and Passion
Body
governed
by ConscienceDiscipline
change the
Passion
(your) world for good (lifts and lasts).
Educate and Obey your Conscience
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Four Roles of
Leadership
H: 7
Mind/
Pathfinding
H: 2
THE FIRE
WITHIN
Spirit
H:
4,5,6
Heart
Empowering
Modeling
H: 1-7
H: 3
Body
Aligning
Leadership is a Choice
Manage Things; Lead People
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Whole Person
in a Whole Job
Mind/
Use me creatively
THE FIRE WITHIN
Spirit/
In serving human needs in
principled ways
Heart/
Body/
Treat me kindly
Pay me fairly
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The High Cost of Low
Trust
Four Chronic Problems
Mind/
No Shared
Vision/Values
DEAD ASHES
Spirit/
Low Trust
Heart/
Body/
Disempowerment
Misalignment
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Habit 1: Be proactive.
the gap = our choice
stimulus
proactive
(forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear)
I will do my work before I watch TV
I will exercise and pray each day.
I will clean my room every week
response
circle of
no concern
Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
Not until you can say
I am what I am today
because of the choices I
made yesterday.
... can you say
I choose otherwise.
circle
of
influence
concern
reactive
(reverse acting, problem-bound, vague)
I am not as smart as others at this school.
People think I’m too passive.
I wish it was Friday!
 Examples of your reactive statements ... and your “proactive” counterparts.
 What to do when frustrated? Discouraged? Imposter? What is your “fix routine”?
 Why not be proactive? What is the risk? Are you willing to risk failure?
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Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind.
The law of the farm: You reap what you sow.
translated “sacrifice”
vision = what you want to see
mission = immediate next step(s)
Both tend to focus priorities.
 Specifically … write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for?
A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money?
 Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends?
 Any books or movies or models that guide you?
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Christian Leadership’s vision and mission
VISION
A “shining city on a hill” …
human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human.
hope and freedom. You can change the world.
MISSION
Inspiring NDCL students to change their world ...
and apprenticing them to champion their hope through
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character. Inspiring trust by establishing and practicing values with courage.
ownership. Championing hopes with responsibility and tenacity.
risk. Innovating or revolutionizing despite possible failure or adversity.
engineering method. Making technical decisions soundly.
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Habit 3: Put first things first.
urgent
important
not urgent
I: necessity
crises
deadlines
“maintaining”
II: opportunity
PC activities
planning & prevention
commitment
(25 - 25)
(65-15)
III
not important interruptions
some meetings
some reports
(5-55)
IV
trivia
busy work
time wasters
(5-5)
• We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I.
• Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV.
 Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?) ...
 How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot?
 How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour?
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The P/PC balance
Aesop’s fable
“The Goose and the Golden Egg”
“A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess
a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky
though they were, they soon began to think they
were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the
bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill
it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal
at once.
But when they cut it open they found it was just like
any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at
once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the
daily addition to their wealth.”
Production (things you are “paid” for)
Production Capability (no “pay”!)
designing a school event
Running a school/ parish activity
doing a dance
enjoying a healthy body
having great friends
Going to a school event alone
Missing out at a school/ parish activity
Who has time for dance?
Missing exercise routines
Not calling friends back
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Habit 3 ... a demonstration.
1 Identify big rocks (q2).
2 Schedule these FIRST!
3 Surround with other.
What is the lesson?
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The 7 Habits ... moving to interdependence
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Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
Synergize
5
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
1st
3
things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
2
Be Proactive
End in mind
Dependence
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consideration
Habit 4: Think win-win.
lose-win
win-win or no deal
(you get hard
feelings)
(abundance mentality;
get P and PC)
lose-lose
win-lose
(never pays)
(other person gets hard
feeling)
courage
 Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate?
 How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account?
 What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”?
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Habit 5: First understand ... then be understood.
win-win area = L x h
h = “understand”
L = “be understood”
4 tips for dealing with people
 Do not criticize, condemn, or complain.
 Express sincere appreciation.
 Give them “emotional air” and learn their story.
 Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in).
Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People
Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes
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What are some “stranglers” for emotional air?
What are some ways we can express sincere appreciation?
How often do you ask someone to a professional lunch?
How do you meet a person? How do you greet a person?
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Habit 6: Synergize.
“Animal school”
Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something
heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized
a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of
running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to
administer, all animals took all the subjects.
In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he
couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t
run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the
tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best
overall and winning valedictorian.
 What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others?
 What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary?
 How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy?
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The 7 Habits ... one more step
7
Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
Synergize
5
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
1st
3
things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
2
Be Proactive
End in mind
Dependence
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Habit 7: Sharpen the saw.
Spiritual
battle of good versus evil
(Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism,
Islam, Judaism)
Social
Mental
family, friends, service
(notes, phone calls, emails, visits)
reading, journaling, discussing,
seminars, meetings
Physical
endurance, strength, flexibility,
sleep, eating
 When will YOU sharpen your saw?
 What measures will you use in each category?
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